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Nicole Cleveland on MARRIAGE - Nicole Cleveland is a minister, motivational speaker and author of “So He Cheated, Now What?” She is also the founder of Breathe Again Magazine and host of BAM - The Radio Show ( www.breatheagainmgazine.org ) Nicole & her husband teach couples how to rebuild, restore and increase the love after infidelity. Visit her online at www.nicoleconline.com or email her at nicoleconline@gmail.com


Will I ever heal… I am so angry….I feel so alone…?
Those are a few words I hear each week from women that are in the process of healing after an affair. Words that are not foreign to me, but words that came out of my mouth for a long time.
How this could happen to me was at the top?
I was so embarrassed and consumed with what others thought I could not heal.

After all, we were in the church when the affair occurred. “Things like this should not happen while serving God”, I thought over and over again.
Today I sing a very different song. Things like this happen, in the church and out of the church.
If you are trying to heal after infidelity I want you to first know that it is possible. You will stop crying and you will get over it. “This Too Shall Pass”. Hear those words and repeat them to yourself. “This Too Shall Pass”.

Below are 5 steps to start you or help you on your road to healing after an affair.

1. Take it one hour at a time – Forget one day at a time, you may have to take it hour by hour, minute by minute and second by second.

2. Don’t compare your situation with others. – This is dangerous. We are all different and we heal differently. Do it in your own time and in your way.

3. Find you a scripture to hold on to throughout the process – There will be days you will want to throw in the towel, as it will get hard. Get a song that will minister to you. It could be your theme song. Find a scripture that will encourage you.

4. Talk to someone you trust. It may be a pastor, a ministry leader, counselor or friend. Find someone you truly trust and open up to them. Please make sure you trust them.

5. Forgive – You have been forgiven so you must forgive. You cannot heal or be free if you do not forgive the one that hurt you. When we think about forgiveness we tend to think it is about the one that betrayed us or caused the pain. Forgiveness is more about you than the other person. You free yourself when you forgive.

Healing after an affair does not happen overnight so please give yourself time. If you allow the process to work and the Lord to heal, you will be able to go back and help that next sister that will cry the same tears you have cried. Your testimony is not for you, it is for someone else. Be strong and stay encouraged. I made it and so WILL you! To read my full testimony on how I overcame an affair in my marriage purchase, “So He Cheated, Now What?”

Motivational Speaker, Minister, Workshop Leader, Radio Host, and Author, Nicole Cleveland lives her life on purpose. Her mission is to ensure that women are not suffering in silence, as she once was. People are on the verge of giving up all over this world. They are waiting for someone to stand up and say, “I have been where you are … but this is how I made it.” Visit her online at www.nicoleconline.com www.breatheagainmagazine.org









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